Find Your Soulmate

Once upon a time we wondered if we were ever going to meet our own.  We ask if the one we are with right now is the one truly meant for us. There are just too many stories about people finding “the one”, their “match”, their “twin soul”, that at times it almost feels too magical to believe, yet we keep on believing.  Love, indeed, moves in mysterious ways. If you want to know if it’s possible, it is.  You can find your soulmate.

Soulmates are believed to be our “love match”, the other twin of our soul.  If you have episodes of yearning and longing, that’s because you haven’t met yet the special someone who can fill up your loneliness. If you got fears, he definitely has ways to subside them. He can put an end to your uncertainty; he spells happiness. Soulmates rather complement us than complete us. 



The first sign in discerning if HE is the one is when your heart and mind tell you that HE is so.  You will know it even if you don’t know how. That’s the joy that soulmates bring to everyone.


Knowing each of us has a matched soul is a beautiful thing to think of.  The universe is so huge that the journey in finding our soulmates seems like a blanket of overwhelming adventure.  The thought seems mysterious but tugs inspiringly at the heartstrings.  It makes us want to wake up each day with that burning desire that we might just stumble to them. The scenario can get really delightful, what with a not so perfect world that we have, finding your soulmate in the most strange times is perhaps the most beautiful thing that can happen to any individual.

So, the question is, how do you find your soulmate when you have no place to start and you have no hint at whom to look for? Simple, it only takes affirmation and awareness, and at the right time you will be able to recognize the “one”. 


AFFIRMATION


Believe that you will meet him.  While it is true that you don’t have to go on searching literally for 
your soulmate, it takes a positive affirmation to help you attract the energies of the universe that may lead you to him.  As with the Christian principle: Ask and you shall receive.  Maintain a conscious effort of believing and anticipating that one day soon you will meet.  It can be an everyday exercise you can practice that can fuel you to live your life with passion for love.

AWARENESS


It would help a great deal if you can keep your eyes and heart open for possible encounters with a soulmate. Know in your heart that you wish to meet him and imagine in your mind what a dream it would be when that happens.  Anyone can pass for a soulmate so try not to discriminate people in advance. Good for you if you have the gift of discernment, but who are the chosen few who have this talent? The strategy is to be in control.  Cling on to that aspiration that your soulmate is not too far away.  Be aware of signs that surround you because who knows, he could also be looking for you.




Free Dating Sites vs. Paid Dating Sites

Free Dating Sites vs. Paid Dating Sites

I have used and worked for several dating sites, both free and paid. 

I know Internet personals from A to Z. 

And I came to realize that free dating sites were awfully expensive.
Want to know why?

First, free dating sites attract all types of rubbish: Nigerian scammers, Russian "mail order brides", and all types of unstable and wicked people that were banned from quality services. Those people have too much time on their hands (or it is their full-time Internet rip-off occupation) and this is why they don't mind to hang there.


On the other hand, since the website is free, they do not have much staff on hand to look after it, and check on possible scams. So scammers are free to go wild there.



Second, free dating sites usually make their revenue from the ads they show to their members. In other words, they aren't really interested in you actually FINDING someone on their site: they would rather have you frustrated and clicking on the ads you see on their site.

Another venue is selling your email address to mass-mailing companies, or running mass-mailings themselves. It means you risk being bombarded with hundreds of commercial emails, day after day.

Third, I find it appalling that a person cannot find some twenty bucks to pay for a subscription. As a woman, I want to KNOW that the guy I am talking to is at least capable of paying his own rent. 

If I were a guy, I would also prefer a woman who is capable of looking after herself and doesn't think a man is there to provide for her.


Forth, the software on free sites is often inconvenient and the customer support sucks. I prefer things that work as they are supposed to.




Fifth, for a busy person like you and me, filtering through heaps of bogus profiles can be maddening. My time is valuable. I'd rather spend it meeting someone for coffee than talking to people that aren't even real.On a paid dating site people have invested something in the process, so they are more serious and don't play games. 


Sixth, for all the reasons outlined above, quality people tend to avoid free dating services. Their time is too valuable. If you want to meet a quality person, you are unlikely to meet them on free sites.


All in all, I have realized that using a free dating site is awfully expensive. I simply cannot afford it. It costs me more in time and effort, which I could use more productively - like running a dating coaching session, or writing an article.

I'd rather pay for subscription and have ten times less frustrations and ten times more results.
What about you?

How Does Speed Dating Work

How Does Speed Dating Work

Speed dating is one of the freshest dating movements in the United States and United Kingdom and continues to spread quickly to the rest of the world. It draws so many people because of its exciting, fast and no pressure way to meet other singles. At one event, you will come into contact with a number of people and participate in quick one-on-one conversations. This process eliminates the stress of going out, finding someone attractive and working up the courage to break the ice. There are no long, expensive dinners or blind dates without chemistry. The people at these events are there simply because they are serious about finding the right person to date. 

Speed dating can vary at each individual event as far as the number of participants and the amount of time you are allowed to ‘date’, but the general idea is the same for all of them. You need to find an upcoming meeting in your area and register in advance. The registration helps the coordinators assure the ratio of men to women attending are the same.



First, an equal group of single men and women gather together at a predestined location. Most of the time the gathering room is filled with ‘tables for two’ and each table is marked with a letter or number. You are then paired up with your first ‘date’ and normally allowed between 3 to 8 minutes to get to ask each other questions. At the end of this time, you move on to your next ‘date’ and begin again. 

If you would like to see more of one of your 'dates’, you have a dating card to either check a box or write down a name of the person that you would like to see again. Sometimes you can even log onto a web site after the event and enter the names of those you wish to have a second date with. Whenever two individuals ‘match up’ after submitting this information, contact information is provided to both so that a second meeting can be set up.



While this process might sound intimidating, most people who have braved one event find that it is not that bad and can even be an efficient way of meeting new people. The trick is to try to connect or relate to each other as speedily as possible. 

The concept is very simple with speed dating. Showing up with a prepared list of original questions that mean something to you is probably a good idea and can help as an indicator as to whom you might want to see again. You’ve got nothing to loose by registering, preparing some questions and showing up with an open mind. Try to enjoy yourself and have fun with your speed dates!


What Does Love Mean?" See How 4-8 Year-Old Kids Describe Love

What Does Love Mean?" See How 4-8 Year-Old Kids Describe Love


Summary:

A group of professional people posed this question to a group
of 4 to 8 year-olds: "What does love mean?" 


See the deep answers they gave...


A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds: "What does love mean?"

The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think...

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"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love."

Rebecca - age 8

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"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth."

Billy - age 4

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"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired."

Terri - age 4

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"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK."

Danny - age 7

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"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss."

Emily - age 8

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"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen."

Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)

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"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate."

Nikka - age 6
(we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)

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"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday."

Noelle - age 7


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"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well."

Tommy - age 6

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"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.

He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore."

Cindy - age 8

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"Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken."

Elaine - age 5

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"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford."

Chris - age 7

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"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day."

Mary Ann - age 4



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"I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones." (Now THIS is love!)

Lauren - age 4

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"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you." (what an image!)

Karen - age 7

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"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross."

Mark - age 6

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"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."

Jessica - age 8

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And the final one...

Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child.

The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.

Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.

When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said,

"Nothing, I just helped him cry."

Online Dating and attraction - My First Step

Online Dating and attraction


In my endeavors to discover the affection for my life, I realized that they were not going to be found in the town where I lived, so I took to the Internet. My first experience was the consequence of a TV advertisement. They looked so darn cheerful, you really wanted to think about whether this could likewise work for you, so I attempted it. Put it along these lines, finding my "Mr. Right" may have wound up costing me a little fortune! 

At that point one day I was taking a shot at my PC and along came an irritating fly up. Typically, I erase them as quick as they fly up, however this one got my attention. It was for another dating site. Once inside the site, I was flabbergasted at all of the nice looking dark men and a couple of white ones as well, who were searching for the ideal dark lady. 

On account of how I am, my want for monogamy, this is the sort of person I was searching for, somebody who had an indistinguishable want from me. What I rapidly discovered, on my first night on the site is that most men don't much try to peruse your profile they simply take a gander at your photo and snap! A debt of gratitude is in order for the compliment, I think? In any case, when a man sets aside the opportunity to peruse your profile, he is going somewhat more profound than simply the physical fascination and really takes in a little about you before sending you a message. 



Around then my profile was somewhat friendlier, all the more welcoming. What I found was that I invested more energy taking out the individuals who did not possess all the necessary qualities until the point when I thought I had discovered the one. Be that as it may I experience serious difficulties giving the greater part of my consideration and love to somebody who is not giving back where its due. Also, in view of my identity, it is not in my temperament to get physically involved with more than one individual at any given moment. To me, closeness unquestionably incorporates something other than sex. It includes enabling a man to truly become more acquainted with your identity, what your preferences are, what your affections and fears are, trusting to the point of defenselessness. So since I was not receiving what I required in kind for what I was giving, I said sounds! 

I chose to give this site another go. This time I explained precisely what I expected in my profile. It was most likely all the more scary to a few. I feel that they could educate that I was intense concerning what I am stating and on the off chance that they are about the diversion, they don't significantly try to click. That is great! As I say, that way I don't need to try removing the fat to get to the meat. Or, on the other hand as one noble man stated, "the apples at the highest point of the tree are all the more engaging however the ones on the ground are simpler to get." I am as yet a similar individual, yet this time I am understanding that it's truly about the amusement. The protest of the diversion is to chat with whomever you need, the same number of as you need, as much as you need, as personally as you need, all in the meantime, lastly, in the event that you do as such, you can choose the person who has prevailed upon you from the greater part of your numerous admirers. In any case, bear in mind that while you are being sought after by him, he is being sought after by others and he is additionally seeking after others in the meantime he is seeking after you. It resembles one major blow out! 


For this very reason, I don't imagine that web based dating is ideal for me. Be that as it may, we should turn that around. Web based dating is the thing that you make it. You can play by your own tenets. With respect to me, I truly couldn't care less what the others do; I will adhere to my molasses technique for one individual at any given moment. The issue is finding that one who would surrender the smorgasbord to perceive what the steak pose a flavor like. I'm certain that it will take me longer along these lines to locate the person who is ideal for me, however after all when I do, it will have been definitely justified even despite the time—for the two of us!

Tips For NOT Dating Russian Women

Tips For NOT Dating Russian Women


Look around the (online dating) web and you will notice that the online dating scene is a lot focused on single Russian women and other East European women. The reason that in particular women from these countries are looking for a foreign partner is generally known, but will not be discussed in this article. But I do like to give you some tips when you must NOT dating or contacting Russian women.

Let me give you 6 valuable tips:


Tip 1.


If you are a single man and you don’t want to be single anymore then you probably already are using the Internet as a source to find a new partner. But fun dating, chatting and ‘playing around’ with people from your own culture or country is something different then being determined to find specific a Russian woman with the one and only purpose: to marry her. This means traveling to Russia (to meet her), possible language barrier, learning about the Russian (women) culture, be prepared for unexpected situations, like money expenses, possible scam situations (if you are looking in the wrong places) and many more.

If you are not convinced about yourself that this is all worth for you, then don’t start dating or contacting Russian women. A serious looking Russian woman who is a formal member of a serious established agency has already prepared herself before she decides to register herself as a possible candidate for serious looking single men from all over the world. She is not looking for pen pals or everlasting month’s of email correspondence, no she is looking for a life partner with one main purpose: to build a happy family.

Tip 2.


If you think that register yourself at some dubious free dating site would be enough to present yourself as a serious looking single man, who is looking for a serious marriage minded Russian woman with the expectation that many women will contact you first, then don’t start to find your future Russian wife in these places, because you will not find them here. These kind of sites can be fun of course, but are also hotbeds for possible scammers.
Believe me, I have unfortunately a lot of experience with men who started at the wrong places. Be smart and take a huge head-start by avoiding these places.


Tip 3.


There are people who register themselves in men’s catalogs with photographs as if they are looking like ‘Tarzan’s’ or use photo’s only wearing swimming shorts, just to impress young good looking ladies. And write a biography using 3 lines like “Hello, my name is [name], I am a single man looking for a young beautiful woman who also likes music, going out, having fun and drive fast cars, if you are interested, then please write me back”
If you identify yourself with that kind of persons, then don’t contact or try to impress Russian women in such way. Russian women are not looking for Brad Pitt look-alikes or muscles like Sylvester Stallone. They are not judging ‘looks’ at all, and you will find out why if you take the trouble to do this the right way.

Tip4.


If you think Russian women are looking for any (western) man just because you think they are looking for a new country, a better life, a wealthy man, no matter if he is 20 years older than she is, then please keep on dreaming. They just seek compatible partners for long term-relationships and marriage and want to love and be loved, that’s all no more, no less!


Tip 5. 


If you don’t have a regular job or (enough) income or don’t have a house/apartment (rent or owned) big enough to live with a family, or if you have any serious criminal records (I am not talking about non paid parking tickets), then don’t try to bring a Russian woman into your country. You will not succeed. Not because of my personal advise which has nothing to do with this, but because of the strict regulations, procedures and rules that are imposed by the authorities when you have the intention to immigrate a Russian woman into your country. Please advise the official USCIS website by yourself: http://uscis.gov/graphics/howdoi/fiance.htm


Tip 6


If you think, that when she finally joins you in your country, you can start living your ‘normal’ life again and if you think she is capable enough to find her own way in your (for her) strange country, to find at once a job, to teach herself your language and find by herself new friends and if you think she should be ‘thankful’ that you have ‘pulled her out’ her poor mafia controlled and corrupted country, then don’t start even thinking about contacting a Russian woman. At least the first month’s she will need extra support from you to settle herself with you as a ‘just married’  husband-and-wife couple and she has to adjust to your country (customs), your culture, your language, your friends, your colleague’s, your shops, your train and bus schedule, your etc. and that takes time and patience from both of you.

But my (western) husband and I can assure you: It’s all worth it!

Please do not think I am some weird arrogant Russian woman and do understand that I am certainly not trying to discourage you to ‘date’ Russian women, on the contrary, I only want to give you some serious tips about the things that really won’t work and if you want to learn more, please visit my website http://www.russian-women-info.com and start reading my Information and Advice chapters.
Irina Sbitneva,

A Russian woman who owns and operates a website ‘Are you crazy enough to marry a Russian woman?’ about finding, contacting, meeting and marrying a Russian woman. Irina is a former scientist of the Institute of Immunology in Moscow and left Russia 5 years ago to marry her foreign husband.


Secrets to online dating success

Secrets to online dating success


Millions of men and women have signed up at online dating sites. The research indicates that there are few dates and even fewer marriages that take place as a result of meeting people online. Some of the responsibility for the poor results lies with the customers themselves. Too many men and women fill out their profiles and then sit back and wait. They expect the computers to match them with their perfect mates. And they really don’t want to actually work at finding their life partners. 

Are you living in a fairy tale?

Some of the reluctance to take charge of your love life is the result of what I call the Fairy Tale Trap. This dating trap is an entrenched part of our culture. The Fairy Tale part of the trap says that we don’t have to take responsibility for finding our soul mates. Indeed, our soul mate will just appear because…it’s fate. Someday, our prince will come, if we just wait long enough. 

Well, it doesn’t work that way. The perfect employer doesn’t call you with a job. The perfect car doesn’t drive itself into your garage. And, your perfect partner won’t magically appear someday to take you away from all of this. You have to get out there and look. Online dating services can help you look. They help you screen more prospects more quickly. But they won’t find a mate for you. 
You have to still put in the effort. If you want the best results from your online search, try these proven tips:

Secrets to online dating success



1. Know yourself; be yourself. No phoniness. Be honest and demand honesty from dates. Or else. First email, first date, doesn’t matter. At the first sign of untruthfulness, walk away.


2. Post several photos - with your clothes on. You catch fish according to the type of bait you use. What do you think you are attracting with racy photos of your T&A? If you want someone to love you for yourself, post photos of yourself, not your body parts.

3. Write a paragraph or two about yourself that no one else could write. Be unique. Most women fall within a fairly narrow range for height, weight, hair color, eye color. They are all "nice", "attractive", fun, good sense of humor. Tell the world something it doesn't know and can't get from a standard fill-in-the-blank profile.

4. Contact lots of people and answer lots of contacts. It's a numbers game. Besides, if you corresponded with only one man how would you know he’s the best one for you? You never had a choice, did you?

5. Online dating safety tips 1) No personal email addresses. Get a new free one from hotmail, yahoo, or gmail. 2) Do not give out your personal phone or cell phone numbers. Instead, visit http://www.freeaudioconferencing.com and get a free bridgeline. This is a private telephone number that exists in a computer far away. You give this number to a possible date, and tell him to call that number at a specific time. Then, both of you call that number at the agreed time to connect over the phone. It's anonymous and untraceable.


6. Most of your contacts and replies won't result in a match or a date, let alone a relationship. So what? Do you always watch the TV channel that comes up when you turn on the TV? You browse the channels, so browse your prospects. The more you do this, the better you will get at it. When you finally meet Mr. Wonderful you'll be very good at screening and evaluating possible dates.

6a. On a scale of 1-10, you’ll want to date 10’s of course. You’d be smart not to waste your time on 1’s. But, how about those 4-5-6’s? Personality can make up for a less than perfect face or body. Besides, the way to get good at something is practice, practice, practice. If you want to be comfortable at dating, conversation, and screening your dates, date a lot of people. Consider it good practice. Whenever Mr. Right does come along, you’ll be practiced, you’ll be polished, and you’ll be ready.

7. Don't think an online dating site will have your perfect date today, this month, even this year. People come and go a lot at these dating sites. Expecting to meet someone good on the first search is like expecting to meet your mate the first time you visit the grocery, the video store, or the coffee shop. The most useful tip is: be patient. You may spend months before someone compatible logs in and sees your profile.

8. Don't expect only one online dating site to have your perfect mate. Mr. Wonderful may have joined another dating site instead. If you're serious about finding a life partner, join the top 3-4 dating sites and visit them at least weekly to see if Mr. W has signed up yet.

9. And the most important of all online dating tips: Don't expect ANY dating site to find you a man. Dating sites can be helpful, but they are just one venue for meeting possible dates and mates. If you were looking for that perfect outfit you wouldn't keep shopping in just one store. Use all the resources available to you to find your perfect partner.


5 Massive Reasons To Date Online

5 Massive Reasons To Date Online


"Divorced, Split up, Single? Five Massive Reasons Why You Should Be Dating Online!”
Announcing five massive reasons why single men should use online dating!
How to meet more women than you could possible have time to date.

Let’s look at the reasons…

Massive Reason #1. Convenience! 


From the comfort and privacy of your own home you can relax with a cup of tea or coffee, and scroll through an assortment of potential women to meet and date!
You can even have a beer or a glass of wine while doing it…
Instead of late nights in smoky bars and going home disappointed…and then wake up smelling like an ashtray.

I don’t enjoy unhealthy, smoky bars and drunks don’t interest me. Then there’s the loud thumping music where you have to shout at each other to be heard.
Where at home and in your own time, you can go online and pick a suitable profile to email and organize to meet.

I love doing this.

So for pure convenience and ease, online dating is the number one place for meeting women!
Online dating is a major breakthrough for single men.
You can meet women you wouldn’t otherwise ever have the opportunity to meet!
Therefore it creates an even playing field for men who don’t enjoy trying to ‘pull’ [meet and seduce] women in bars.

By learning some basic skills and getting experience, any man can succeed online.

Massive Reason #2. Not Having To Face Rejection by Approaching Women Cold!  


This is a major bonus for guys who are recently divorced, split up and have lost their confidence and experience with meeting women.

It is the best way to ease back into the dating scene…
You don’t have to boldly approach a woman in public and get her number for a date.
You do it online via email, with no nervousness to deal with at all.

And if you contact a profile and she ignores your email, so what?
You just move on to another until you find one to meet, easy!
Therefore you are not confronted with your fear of being rejected in public, with online dating.

And if you do get ignored or knocked back, no one knows but you and it doesn’t MATTER.
There are plenty more to choose from…

And by the time you meet, you’ve already chatted via email and on the phone so there is no need to be nervous when you meet her for coffee.


Massive Reason #3. Confidence Building!


You gain confidence by meeting women online and having success with seduction.
This is a great benefit.

When I divorced after nine years I was nervous approaching women and had little success.
Once I had been online dating for six months I was back on my feet with women.
I now have the belief and confidence to approach and meet women everywhere.
I also have more skill at handling cold women and rejection when it happens.
Because I’ve learnt that it’s impossible to succeed 100% of the time.
Every No means you are closer to a Yes.
So if you are not getting rejected, you aren’t in the game!

You HAVE to be in the game!

The confidence you get meeting and seducing women online will enable you to meet the perfect lady for you. Whether that is online or offline. It’s getting the experience that is important.
As Tony Robbins would say, ‘Repetition is the mother of skill.’  :-]


Massive Reason #4. The Infinite Amount of Suitable Women!


It truly is an infinite amount of women available online to meet.
By having such a large pool of single women to contact, there is no need to ever be short of at least one date a week.

It’s just a case of being organized and only contacting local women to make the most of your time.
There will be anything from two to thirty two different sites in your region to join and check out profiles.

There is also many NEW women joining everyday…this will continue forever!
So it’s a must for single men to get good at online dating.

You can never run out of women to contact. Even if you exhaust one service you can try another. By the time you’ve gone through all suitable profiles to meet on the other service, the original one will have new stock!     :-]

Online dating is also very affordable!

Massive Reason #5. Ease of Finding Suitable Partners!


By creating your own criteria and sticking to it, you can find someone suitable so much quicker than offline.
That is of course if they are honest in their profile…    
[Which sometimes they aren’t.]        :-]
This saves you a lot of time and money by having criteria.
For example, I don’t date women with children.
Which is hard in my age group.
But dating women with kids will never work out for me, so I just have to stick with my criteria.
I also don’t date smokers anymore…
So the more experience and confidence you get. The more definitive your criteria become.
By narrowing my criteria I have meet some great ladies a lot quicker than if I had just dated anyone who would go out with me.
Also when you approach someone in a bar you know nothing about them.
Online you get to know a reasonable amount before you make contact.
This really does increase your odds of meeting suitable partners.
I love online dating…I much prefer it to bars as an alternative.
It’s paved the way for me to be comfortable when I am single. Because I know there is a LOT of suitable women online and I’ll be back dating a nice lady sometime soon….

All the best to you…